Almost Wordless Wednesday

Time to share a pic of me and NB...it's a crappy pic and the only one I have of us in our (almost) 5 months together and those of you that are on my FB have probably seen it...but either way...here it is...lol.

Happy Wednesday Peeps...I hope you the sun is shining in your world (both figuratively and literally) like it is here in mine!

Okay so 2 pics lol. I look better in the 2nd one but what is up with the look on his face? haha.

I'm still alive

I don't even know how long it's been since I've blogged...I guess this part of my life has kind of taken a back seat...that makes me sad! I miss my bloggy friends!

Me and the NB (new boyfriend) are still going strong...4 months yesterday. He's so easy to be with and easy to be around and although I figured there would be way more issues within our relationship because he also has a child...I have got to say that there have been absolutely none...we haven't even really had a disagreement.

Some of you that are long time readers know how different this is from my last relationship...we fought ALL OF THE TIME...and it drained me to no end.

We are planning a road trip in the Summer (kidfree) and I really can't wait...it may be too soon to say so....but I'm thinking he could be "the one".

Finally...Halloween pics...and other random tidbits

As I sat down to blog this morning I realized I failed to share the boy's Halloween pics here...enjoy...

In other news I just came off of a kid free weekend. My mom was in the City to do some shopping and visiting and told me to feel free to take off for the weekend while she spent time with the boy. Being still in the somewhat beginning stage of our relationship me and my new BOYFRIEND (yes he's moved up from "the guy I'm seeing" to having an official title lol) spent the weekend together and believe it or not it was our first time without either of our kids! How absolutely marvelous it was.

We went to the movies Friday night...back to his place for drinks. Did some Christmas shopping on Saturday...early start for me I'm so not organized and I'm a procrastinator so I usually don't start until the beginning of December lol.

Saturday night he met one of my best friends and her boyfriend for the first time. We had appies and drinks at a nice little Mexican restaurant and then went out to the bar where my friend's boyfriend was playing (he plays in and manages a band). It was a great time and although the NEW boyfriend (maybe he'll be "NB" for now lol) is not really into the bar scene he made the most of it.

The boy is dying to set up our Christmas tree and I have to say I'm counting down the days to when I can start decorating for Christmas...although it's hard at times trying to find that perfect gift for everyone and making sure there is enough money to do so...I have to admit that the Christmas season is my favourite. I love everything about it...except of course the cold temperatures...if we could have snow and mild temps I'd be a very happy girl!!!

Deep Thoughts...

So what defines a relationship these days? I have been seeing T now for 2 months yet I wonder if he would call me his girlfriend and/or if I should be referring to him as my boyfriend and not just "the guy I'm seeing". I'm in no rush to define things...but at the same time we've hung with each other's families...spent the last 5 nights together...our boys fight like siblings yet are the best of friends...sure feels like a relationship...

I find myself thinking some pretty deep thoughts...I don't question that I'm happy cause he really is the sweetest, kindest, most considerate man I've ever been with...I just wonder if I'm ready...but who am I to sabotage a good thing just because the timing might not be quite right! Right?

The built in 'family' suits me quite nice...it's really the first time I've dated a guy that has partial custody of his child (week on, week off) - I love his little boy and I can tell he's growing quite fond of me too...wanting to show me all kinds of things that he thinks are neat and cool. I've heard many step-parenting woes through the years and can imagine that if this relationship continues to get serious we will have our ups and downs where that is concerned...but honestly I feel like I'm up for the challenge...

Can I just say that the sexiest thing is watching a man be an outstanding father! Oh and it doesn't hurt he can cook too! lol.

In other news we are gearing up for Halloween - must carve pumpkin...maybe tonight! The boy has his costume and will be dressing up as "Rex" from Star Wars...he's a clone trooper if you didn't know...not to be confused with a storm trooper...as the boy would say.

School is still going well. My boy continues to amaze me with his participation is extra curricular activities at school. Currently he's in handball and is still enjoying being a patrol crosser.

I guess that's my update for now...I would like to promise that I will blog more regularly...but life keeps getting in the way...I hope I still have some readers!

What is new in the world of Mel?

LOTS!

It's been awhile since I've posted...I don't know what it is...I have the time but sometimes I'm just too lazy to do anymore than read all of your blogs...sometimes I'm even too lazy to comment and I hate that!

So since I posted last - I put myself on Plenty of Fish (dating site for those that don't know) because I was lonely and looking for friends...nothing serious just someone to hang out with...I met 2 guys from there and they both turned out to be a little bit crazy...I mean I know I'm a pretty good catch but you can't want to spend every single waking moment with me after 2 dates...I just don't roll that way! I am a single mom...newly single at that...and I need time for ME sometimes too.

So needless to say after trying that route and failing...oh and having the ex-boyfriend find my profile and essentially stalk me on there...yeah decided it wasn't the route I wanted to take...

BUT there is someone in my life...we are taking it very very very slow...he's been a friend for years and in fact was my neighbour up until 2 years ago...the ex-boyfriend was extremely jealous of our friendship and forbid it...needless to say as soon as (hmmm what should I call him...lol) "T" found out that the ex-boyfriend and I split up he called me and we've been hanging out ever since. Our boys are friends from when we were neighbours and so far the boy approves of our 'dating'. He really only found out we were more than friends last weekend when he caught us holding hands lol.

I won't change my Facebook relationship status just yet...I just don't feel like I'm quite there yet...I've been calling it "almost a relationship" for about 3 days now...I guess I'm just scared that it's too soon.

The ex-boyfriend is still in touch on a weekly basis even though I've asked him to please just leave me be...he's having a very hard time accepting that it's over with us and there is no talking things out anymore...he crossed far too many lines.

So that's my 'love life' in a nutshell.

Now on to the boy - he's doing great in school - slightly sassy and his teacher does not approve which is great...I've found in the past that his teachers have let him get away with far too much! But besides the sassy attitude he's doing well academically and has joined every club the school offers - he immensely enjoyed Cross Country Running Club and is now in Homework Club and Handball Club. I love that he's so involved in the school. Oh and he's patrolling on his own too. At first he was peeved that they had to spend the whole month of September training and he wanted to stop being a patroler...but now that he's allowed to do it all on his own he's enjoying it alot!

OMG - 4th grade...

My boy - as you embark on 4th Grade I am in shock that we are here already...I remember 4th grade...it was a whole lot of fun. I loved my teacher and she loved me...this was the year I really started to notice boys...me and my friends used to chase the cute boys and try and kiss them...lol. Maybe you'll have much the same experience...on the very first day of school last Thursday you had to help your poor little friend into the office because the girls were chasing him and he fell and cut his lip wide open...poor kid!!!! You've always been there to help when your friends need you...that must be a quality you get from me...I'm a helper!

You have expressed interest in the cross country running club...which starts today I might add...and you are also going to be a patrol crosser at lunchtime. Just don't go getting too busy...enjoy these years...they fly by so fast!!!

I love you kiddo...you and me...we make a great team...with you on my side I can conquer anything...and I hope you feel that same "safe place" in me.

Let's all Cheers to having lots and lots of fun!!!

Summer is quickly coming to an end...it's been a life changing summer for me...as you all know from my last post. It's been just over two weeks since the ex-boyfriend and I have spoken...and let me tell you it's been a very fun and exciting two weeks...which just reaffirmed for me that I had done the right thing in ending it. As hard as it was...and as hard as it is to be a single mom yet again...it's what is right!

We spent last weekend at my friend's cabin and had a blast. Kids up late...adults up drinking all hours of the night...no worries and no stress...

I'm slowly entering the dating scene again...it's nice to flirt with random guys...haha. Don't get me wrong someday I want to meet the one for me...but right now I'm okay with just having some FUN.

School starts here in just over a week...the boy is less than impressed...I guess by 4th grade school isn't so fun and exciting anymore...I always liked it anyway because it meant new clothes...boys don't seem to care so much about that though...lol.