~~Mel~~

~~Mel~~

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Friend Makin' Monday - Tuesday Edition

This is my first week participating...and I'm doing it all wrong...even on the wrong day lol.

But I've been meaning to jump on this bandwagon that Kasey started and figured this was a great question to start with:

How did you and your significant other meet? and if you don't have a significant other at the moment then what would be your dream way to meet him?

The boyfriend and I have been together now for just over two years. We met (in person) for the first time on May 12, 2007.

How did we meet??? Online! At plentyoffish.com to be exact! And let me tell you, I was dead set against online dating...I thought it was stupid and not for me...but over time one of my very good friends talked me into creating a profile. To this day I have her to thank for the boyfriend and I meeting...but I also have her to thank for a whole lot of 'duds' I met before him lol.

So D finally convinced me to create a profile in August, 2006. I chatted with guys online but wasn't ready to meet anyone in person...until about November of the same year...when I met my first online dating 'dud'. Seriously, all these guys seemed to go online to find sluts and hoes...and they were not finding that with me. But I gave it a few more go arounds...all ending with 'duds'.

Two of my closest friends even went so far as creating a profile for me and attempting to screen the men before I met them...that didn't work out so well...I ended up dating a guy they chose for a mere 2 weeks and after that mere 2 weeks he had plans to move in with me and become a family...me, the boy, his boy and him...ummm no thanks...I don't move *that* quickly!

In February 2007 the boyfriend chatted me up (instant message on POF)...I immediately told him he wasn't my type...he had a full beard and I just was not attracted to guys with facial hair...a little goatee, maybe...or even a little bit of fuzz...but I just did not like the picture I saw in his profile...so we only chatted briefly...call me shallow...but if I know instantly that I will not be physically attracted to you then I blow you off...

Fast forward to May 2007...it was a busy time for me and I had all but given up on the whole online dating system...when I was browsing one Friday night and came across the boyfriend's profile...only he looked nothing like his previous picture (now clean shaven)...in fact, so much so that I didn't recognize him as the guy I had chatted with previously. When I chatted him up and he then pointed that out I felt like a fool!!!!

Anyway, we chatted online and on the phone for a week...I wasn't really sure that he was ever going to ask to meet in person...so I did. The day after the boy's birthday (a Saturday) we had tons to do...I had plans to meet friends in the early afternoon for patio drinks while the boy stayed and played with another friend's son...then it was off to the family BBQ we had planned for the boy's birthday...but that night I decided would be a great night to meet in person...I figured after the boy was in bed I'd invite (who I now refer to as) the boyfriend over. I know what you are thinking...and I wouldn't recommend it because it's not a very safe way to meet people...but at the time I felt like I knew him...and in the end it all worked out for the best. Would I do it again that way? Absolutely not!! There are far too many sickos out there. And the guys I had met previously I made sure to meet in a public place and I always let my bff where I was going to be and who I was meeting...but with the boyfriend all of that went out the window.

So he came over that night...we talked until the wee hours of the morning...even watching the sunrise through my living room window...he just did not want to leave me lol.

A week later he met the boy and the rest is history.

We've had a rough go of it the past two years...blending is not an easy task...I was a single mom for the entire first 6 years of the boy's life and I still struggle with 'sharing' the responsibilities, discipline, etc. with the boyfriend...but I know we are in it for the long haul and really really love each other.

So there you have it folks!

5 comments:

~*~ Melissa ~*~ said...

That's a great story of how you two met. I never did the 'online dating' thing, but I know many people that have met that way and they are happy. I hope it all works out for you two :)

That Girl said...

awwww and I remember every bit of that. The duds were interesting for the outsiders to laugh at. lol

Staci said...

how sweet!!! Thanks for sharing!!

Yaya said...

I love love love stories of how couples got together! Maybe because mine and Josh's isn't that fabulous (he invited me to a party and a week later I moved in...what? I needed a place to live!! :)

onegirliegirl said...

That is such a great story!! I hear more and more from people that they've met their SO thru online dating.

How the world has changed since I was in the dating scene!! Thanks for sharing something so personal!

xoxo ~Lisa