~~Mel~~

~~Mel~~

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Friendship is...

What does friendship mean to you? Before the internet I would have said "a special connection I have with some select people...we have a number of things in common...like to go to the same places and are at the same stage in our lives".

Most of my friends growing up were male. I couldn't stand the cattiness of girls and preferred the easygoingness (is that even a word) of boys. Not to mention I grew up with 2 younger brothers who constantly had me playing GI Joe or Ghostbusters lol. But since high school I've always had one or two very close (sometimes I consider them BEST) girl friends. Through the years those friendships have changed or we've drifted apart for one reason or another. But I'm pleased to say that my 2 very best friends at the moment have been in my life now for just over 6 years.

Anyways, I'm kind of getting off topic lol. The internet has changed how I view friendship. You see 7 years ago when my little man was born I found myself single with no one in my life who could really understand exactly what I was going through. We moved to the city I currently live in and I knew not a sole, besides a select few family members. People I met my age were still single and childless and those people I met with children were much older than me. That's when I stumbled upon Babycenter and The Single Parents Board. The girls that were a part of that board 7 (almost 8) years ago are still in my life to this day. Not all of them but most. One of those women commented on my Facebook wall the other day and after not hearing from her for about 6 months I was overjoyed to learn that things in her life are going so well.

My whole point of this rambling post is...that having not even met any of these women they know things about me that my family and closest friends may not know. They've seen me through good times and bad. We are like a family. I see that is happening now with this blog all over again and it's so exciting. I love to meet new people and hope that I will make friendships that will in fact last a life time.

10 comments:

Carole said...

What a very sweet post Miss Mel!! Your a great gal and I totally agree about the catty chickas!@!!! lol

carole
xoxo

Jen said...

Great post! I have very few friends but quite a few acquaintences. I'm VERY selective in the friend category. I only trust MAYBE 2 of them 110%. The others I trust about 90-95%. I don't open up to people as much anymore.
Most of my friends growing up were male also b/c of the same reasons you posted. I honestly think that's why I don't have many "girl" friends. Too much drama and pettiness, etc. I'm too old for that crap!

Shimmermeblue said...

This is a great post. The same applies to me in a way. Either my friends have kids, so we don't get to hang out as much, or they don't have kids and it's just totally not the same. Most of the friends I had before kids, aren't there anymore and are more like aqaintences than people I have met over the last 9 years, or even people I talk to online.

That Girl said...

awww a post all about ME? you rock! (fyi to others we did meet on the single parents board.)

I am so glad we are close and I think you are just awesome!!

Cheryl said...

Amen, sister! I love the blogosphere. It's like another home (:

Jen said...

I tagged you in a blog of mine!

Shimmermeblue said...

I'd say you're lucky he waited so long! He developed that one 4 years ago and I swear he wins the heart of every single little girl he meets! We went to my friend's niece's b-day party last year and she must have changed into 3-4 cute little skirts while we were there lol.
And my oldest, he actually had a g/f last year! They did break up though. She lives on the same block, and he wouldn't even go up to her house to trick-or-treat LMAO!
I guess, it's better than having girls, I wouldn't want to have to chase the boys away.

Anonymous said...

awwwwwwwwwww i like this post.

Staci said...

I know just what you mean! I feel like friendships are developing through my blog and I love it! Its neat to see.... Wasn't babycenter the best?!?

Toni said...

Yep, I have "met" people from all over the world who I can discuss parenting with and consider these people my friends. It is great!